Why don’t we enjoy things as they are and why aren’t we thankful enough for our every opportunity? Why do we have to complain instead of changing the actual thing we don’t like? Problem is that today we associate the complaining with venting far more than we do with solving the problem. We’re looking for a person who will sympathize with us. We think that it’s far more interesting story to tell than rather asking the person how is he doing.
How much time do we actually spend complaining on daily basis? It’s proven that we invest 8 minutes and 46 seconds per day just for complaining. 6 months of our lives.
There’s a difference between telling someone about a problem when we want their help for solving it and complaining about something when we actually don’t plan to do anything about it. Just fishing for some kind of sympathy or trying to take advantage of someone’s good intentions. We complain instead of making things better for ourselves. We are automatically taking a step back from our goals. Of course it’s easier to say things than achieving them.
What we’re supposed to do when we don’t like something is to change it. If we can’t change it, change the way we think about it. Don’t complain.
I was thinking how I could interact with people and convince them to not complain for at least a day. I’ve decided to create this kind of a tear off leaflet and challenge people to take a step for today. There are totally 4 commitments to do until the end of the day. I've tried to create them as simplest as I could at first sight. Challenging people taking small steps for creating their days better and to prevent complaints.
“I will change things I don’t like.”
“I will be more thankful for what I have.”
“I will talk about my joys.”
“I will look forward to the little things.”
I placed these leaflets on various places such as elevator, bus stops and gates of buildings. People usually have to wait more on these places and they have time to read something. Otherwise they’re in hurry and wouldn’t consider spending time on something random.
I was extremely surprised when I placed my first leaflet in our elevator. Not a day has passed and all of the challenges were gone. Some people after they were finished even gave their papers back for other people to take it. When I checked the other places the messages disappeared too.
I hope I made their day just a tiny bit shinier and exciting and realize that complaining doesn’t have to be essential in our conversations. I was very glad for this quick response.